As an advocate of the Reproductive Health Bill, I’ve said it time and again, that sex is a basic human need which can be used by couples (whether married or unmarried) for both pleasure and procreation. We can refer to Abraham Maslow’s hierarchy of needs and it’s there, at the bottom of the pyramid under the category of Basic Human Needs. Some theists especially the Catholics, heedlessly disagree by saying that if sex were a need, celibates would have died off by now. They also argue that wanting regular sex with a spouse or a partner is perversion. That’s because their religion instilled in them by the declaration of bishop Augustine (354 – 430), during the time when societies wereseverely lacking in proper research on human behavior and psychology, that lust was the original sin of both Adam and Eve; and in his writings, it is said that intercourse could only rightfully take place in marriage for the purpose of reproduction. (“G”od didn’t tell you that, Augustine did. Hmmkay?)
The union, then, of male and female for the purpose of procreation is the natural good of marriage. But he makes a bad use of this good who uses it bestially, so that his intention is on the gratification of lust, instead of the desire of offspring.
– Augustine, On Marriage and Concupiscence (Book I, chapter 5)
Sexual desire is inherent in us because it’s our animal instinct to procreate, to assure the survival of the species. We are genetically hardwired to seek out a mate and to have sexual release, thus the presence of libido. And since we are thinking animals, we have the capability of deciding to reproduce or not. Along with that, we can discern whether we can support the development of the child we will procreate.
Staunch opponents of the Reproductive Health Bill are mostly Catholics, and they seem to want a room mate and a baby making machine more than a spouse because they argue that a marriage should be based on love and respect for the partner, and that ONLY the Natural Family Planning method (calendar method, abstinence, etc) should be used instead of both natural and artificial means because they claim that the latter is anti-life and will result to more frequent sex, which their dogma tells them, will disrespect and downgrade women to mere sex objects.
Following bishop Augustine’s declaration, they demonize sexual expression, which they view is only moral, even within a marriage, if it’s done for the purpose of pro-creation. The American Life League maintains that “birth controls lead to a state of mind that treats sexual activity as if it has nothing to do with babies.” (American Life League, 2006, p1), hence, they say people should not use contraception. (source: “Our Sexuality” by Robert Crooks, Karla Baur). And they also claim that contraceptive use will result to broken families.
Just as expected, those listed above are nothing but a bunch of lies by the sex depraved men in white robes and silly hats, and their uber loyal holier than thou fans. First off, sex ispurely physical, the respect and love, comes after the fact. Second, the use of contraceptives is not anti-life in the context of killing another human being. It’s self-explanatory and from the word itself “contraception” means “against conception”, how can anything kill something that has not been conceived yet? Third, along with intimacy and passion, couples need sex to bond. Fourth, what the fuck happened to free will? People have the freedom to choose whether they want to have children or not, to determine the number of children that they can properly support, and to access medical information on how to manage the spacing of each birth.
NFP has been proven to fail and the calendar method is too much of a fuss to use and it takes out the fun and the spontaneity in a relationship. Scratch sex out of the relationship, and instead of both consummate and companionate love, you’ll only get the latter, which is how people are to their room mates or close friends. A quick Google search will show that aside from communication failure, children, money problems, infidelity, wrong expectations, lack of commitment, addictions, mid-life crisis, irritating habits (like snoring), careers, family, and domestic violence, it’s also the lack of a healthy sexual relationship between couples that result to marital problems.
Aside from making marriages and relationships healthier, regular sexual activity has been known to be beneficial for one’s health. According to Dr. Oz, ”Sex saves lives and people should do it at least 200 times a year.” He added that, ”there are a number of health benefits of having sex, all of which can contribute to a longer, healthier life.
- Sex is an immune booster. One study found that people who have sex once or twice a week had 30 percent higher levels of immunoglobulin A antibody, which is known to boost the immune system.
- Sex relieves stress and is associated with lower diastolic blood pressure.
- Sex keeps you fit. You can burn 85 – 200 calories per 30 minutes of sex – plus it’s great for improved strength, flexibility, muscle tone and cardiovascular conditioning.
- Sex can even make you look younger – intercourse increases levels of the hormone DHEA (dehyroepiandrostone), a youth promoting hormone that has been connected to shiny hair, a glowing complexion and bright eyes.
- Sex can reduce your risk of cancer. One study found that frequent ejaculation in men in their 20s was associated with decreased risk of prostate cancer later in life.”
Articles about the benefits of sex:
Sex isn’t only good for the physical well-being, but good for the mental health as well. The symptoms of lack of good sex in men are physical aggression due to frustration and restlessness. They also become horny and get easily aroused when around women. What’s more, if this basic human need isn’t met, it becomes the focus of an individual’s life… (just take a look at the bishops… LMAO, they can’t stop talking about sex). If it isn’t a human need, why would human beings experience the negative effects due to the lack of sexual release?
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P.S. The threat of HIV is very real. Be responsible and always practice safe sex. =)